If you constantly achieve new year resolutions and have improved your life through them, Congratulations, you can stop reading here, however, if you have difficulty making and keeping new year resolutions, this is the blog post for you.
New Year’s Day is seen as a new beginning. There seems to be something magical about the period of time between January 1st and December 31st. For one thing, it seems like the end of the calendar would be a great reminder to finish up the projects that one resolved to complete when beginning to use that particular calendar. Another benefit would seem to be that others are also trying to stay strong in keeping their resolutions by or until the same date. It stands to reason that people would encourage each other to “hold on” and “stay strong.”
January the first is an arbitrary date.
However, that has not been my experience. I have rarely been asked or reminded about the status of new year resolutions as the end of December approaches. Therefore, I was not reminded to set new resolutions either. I used to feel bad on January second because I would hear people talk about new year resolutions and realize that I had none. I would tell people who inquired, “My new years resolution is to have new years resolutions next year.” I would even postpone making positive changes in my life because I did not want to be left with nothing to resolve on New Year’s Day. Then, I would either forget about the changes I wanted to make, or they would no longer be relevant by the time December 31st came around and I would feel bad all over again.
Today is where your book begins.
The rest is still unwritten.
As I matured, I realized that every day could be considered the beginning of a new year. I did not have to feel bad if I did not have something new to commit to improving on January first of each year. One does not have to wait to make changes. Changes and new resolutions can start now. Today! No matter what the date it is when you are reading this.
Making changes today is part of proactivity. The opposite of proactivity is reactivity. Thinking that I had to wait for January 1st to start all my resolutions was reactive. An arbitrary date on the calendar was controlling and limiting my behavior and potential to improve. Proactivity, on the other hand, involves taking control of one’s life and circumstances. Several examples of how to be proactive found in the Cornerstone Centers for Wellbeing blogs posted here over the past year include the following: choosing to be happy even during unfortunate times, choosing to see one’s self as lovable, focusing on what one is grateful for (counting blessings), doing things that make one feel renewed, seeking out professionals to help where one may not have expertise, accepting support, offering support, challenging core beliefs, focusing on the present moment, writing a thank you note, keeping a gratitude journal, taking a break from the stresses of life, and, of course, calling Cornerstone Centers for Wellbeing at 1-866-280-WELL (9355) to proactively schedule an appointment to meet with one of our talented counselors.
I encourage you to review the proactive advice from our 2021 blogs and look forward to many great blogs from Cornerstone Centers for Wellbeing containing proactive steps to take to help you center your life on wellbeing in 2022. If you have not already done so, you may want to bookmark our blog page and follow us on social media so you can easily check back each month to learn proactive ways to improve your life.
Achieving resolutions during 2022 may work for some people and situations, but responding to challenges immediately is often more prudent and effective. Of course, if new year resolutions work for you, do not stop doing something beneficial. The rest of us can breathe easier knowing that any period of time that we set for ourselves can be motivating.
Live your best life,
Jared Chantrill, LCSW